Portrait of a Friend

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems, doubts,
or fears. But I can listen to you, and together we will
search for answers.

I can't change your past with all it's heartache and pain,
nor the future with its untold stories.
But I can be there now when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling.
I can only offer my hand that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes, and happiness are not mine;
Yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are not mine to make, nor to judge;
I can only support you, encourage you,
and help you when you ask.

I can't prevent you from falling away from friendship,
from your values, from me.
I can only pray for you, talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which I have determined for you,
But I can give you the room to change, room to grow,
room to be yourself.

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,
But I can cry with you and help you pick up the pieces
and put them back in place.

I can't tell you who you are.
I can only love you and be your friend.

Being Single can be Bad for your Health

The September Issue of the Journal of Epidemiology revealed an amazing fact. It is often believed that staying with friends or having friends or being with somebody you love makes a dull day bright!
Several research studies have already been done looking at longer life spans and lesser heart diseases among happily married couples. But this is the first study done at University of California that I know of, that looked at single blessedness and decreased life span.
THE FINDINGS:
1. A 58% increase in death rate among single persons versus those who are married.
2. Unmarried persons whether divorced, separated or widowed had higher death rate.
3.The effect was STRONGEST among those NEVER MARRIED and more pronounced in men than in women.
Practical Implication of the study in our decision making:
Being unmarried is a high risk condition. In fact it was assessed that… the risk of being unmarried is similar to ones risk if he has high blood pressure or high cholesterol and the risk of death!
*Does this mean married couples lead happier lives? Or live healthier lives because of the children or because they want more happier years together that they live healthier lives? OR
*Do you think being single equates to being lonely and less health conscious? …. What do you think?
As the saying goes…
The Happier You Are…The Longer You Live!

Life

Life is too short

Grudges are a waste of perfect Happiness

Laugh when you can

Apologize when you should

And let go of what you can’t change

Love deeply and forgive quickly

Take chances give everything

And have no regrets...life’s too short to be

Unhappy you have to take good with the bad

Smile when you’re sad. Love what you got

… and always remember what you had .

Always forgive, Never forget

Learn from you're mistakes, but never regret.

Love & Life

Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry?

When we imagine? When we kiss?
This is because the most beautiful things in
the world are unseen.

We are all a little weird and life's a little weird
and when we find someone whose weirdness
is compatible with ours,
we join up with them and fall in
mutual weirdness and call it love.

There are things that we never want to let go of,
people we never want to leave behind,
but keep in mind that letting go isn't the end of the world,
it's the beginning of a new life.

Happiness lies for those who cry, those who hurt,
those who have searched and those who have tried.
For only they can appreciate the importance of the people
who have touched their lives.

A great love? It's when you shed tears and still
you care for her,
it's when she ignores you and still you long for her.
It's when she begins to love another and yet you still smile
and say I'm happy for you.

If love fails, set yourself free,
let your heart spread its wings and fly again.
Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies,
you never have to die with it.

The strongest people are not those who always win
but those who stand back up when they fall.
Somehow along the course of life,
you learn about yourself and realize
there should never be regrets,
only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you've made.

A true friend understands when you say, I forgot,
waits forever when you say, just a minute,
stays when you say leave me alone,
opens the door even before you knock and says can I come in?

Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive,
not how you listen but how you understand,
not what you see but how you feel,
and not how you let go but how you hold on.

It's more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than outwardly.
Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever.
In love, very rarely do we win
but when love is true, even if you lose,
you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone
more than you love yourself.

There comes a time when we have to stop loving someone
not because that person has stopped loving us
but because we have found out
that they'd be happier if we let go.

It's best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that's available.
Best to wait for the one you love than one who is around.
Best to wait for the right one
because life is too short to waste on just someone.

Sometimes the one you love turns out to be the one who hurts you the most,
and sometimes the friend who takes you into his arms
and cries when you cry
turns out to be the love you never knew you wanted.

If you really love someone never let go,
don't believe that letting go means that you love best, instead fight for your love,
that's what true love is.

Laugh to your heart's content; you cannot go
through life without it.

apples

Girls

are like apples

on the trees. The best ones

are at the top of the tree. The

boys don’t want to reach for the

good ones because they are afraid of

falling and getting hurt. Instead, they

just get the rotten apples from the ground

that aren’t as good , but easy. So the apples at

the top think something is wrong with them.

When in reality, they’re amazing. They just

have to wait for the right boy to

come along, the one who’s

brave enough to

climb all

the way

to the top

of the tree.

Differences b/w Love & Like

In front of the person you love, your heart beats faster.
But in front of the person you like, you get happy.
In front of the person you love, winter seems like spring.
But in front of the person you like, winter is just a beautiful winter.
If you look into the eyes of the one you love, you blush.
But if you look into the eyes of the one you like, you smile.
In front of the person you love, you can't say everything on your mind.
But in front of the person you like, you can.
In front of the person you love, you tend to get shy.
But in front of the person you like, you can show your own self.
Then person you love comes into your mind every 2 minutes.
You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you love.
But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you like.
When the one you love is crying, you cry with them.
But when the one you like is crying, you end up comforting.
The feeling of love starts from the eye
And the feeling of like starts from the ear.
So if you stop liking a person you used to like
All you need to do is cover your ears,
But if you try to close your eyes
Love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever after

Expectation

ForGIVEness

People said sorry seems to the hardest word, but is that really that hard? Is that very difficult to ask for forgiveness? Someone's ego will drop just by saying SORRY?? Is that so?

Ask for forgiveness… Forgiven­ess when each day I chose my dreams over my relationship.. Forgiv­eness for each time I couldn't make it for dinner because of other last minute meetings…. Forgivenes­s for each time where I didn't steal a single moment out of my busy day to give her a call and say that I miss her… Forgiveness coz I didn't even spend a few hours to go out or catch a movie with her….. Forgiveness coz I didn't listen to her sadness even though I knew she have a problem and need a shoulder to lean on… Forgiveness for each time I forgot to kiss on her forehead to show some love... Forgiveness for all the promises that I've broke….. or Forgiveness for each minute when I hurt her feelings and didn't even bother to make up….. But most of all…Forgiveness for all those innumerable moments when I forgot to tell her how much I love her… Assuring that I will have a lot of time to say so but I was wrong…. I LOST THAT TIME WHEN I LOST HER...

That's why I always say that time means NOW… If u have to love, LOVE NOW… If u have to ask forgiveness.. ASK NOW… If you want to hold hands… HOLD NOW…. If you love someone so deeply… tell them that you do NOW… Don't wait until tomorrow… Because if tomorrow never show up… you will definitely regret the day…. Don't wait until its too late….. Make a move while u can......

I won't Hold You Back

If I had another chance tonight
I'd try to tell you that the things we had were right
Time can erase the love we shared
But it gives me time to realize just how much you cared
Now you're gone, I'm really not the same, I guess I held myself to blame
Time can erase the things we said
But it gives me time to realize that you're the one who's sad

You know I won't hold you back now, the love we had just can't be found
You know I can't hold you back now

Now that I'm alone it gives me time to think about the years that you were mine
Time can erase the love we shared
But it gives me time to realize just how much you cared

You know I won't hold you back now, the love we had just can't be found

You know I can't hold you back now, the love we had just can't be found

Women as Explained by Engineers!

Part I - (Algebra Explanation)


Well as you can see this solution equates that Women = Problems!

Part II - (The Safety Engineer's/Chemical Engineer's Explanation)


Part III - (Statistics Explanation)

ABC of Friendship

i'll be over you

Some people live their dreams

Some people close their eyes
Some people's destiny
Passes by

There are no guarantees
There are no alibis
That's how our love must be
Don't ask why

It takes some time
God knows how long
I know that I can forget you

As soon as my heart stops breakin'
Anticipating
As soon as forever is through
I'll be over you

Remembering times gone by
Promises we once made
What are the reasons why
Nothing stays the same

There were the nights holding you close
Someday I'll try to forget them
Someday I'll be over you

Loneliness

Loneliness is too close a companion for me to be at all objective. It has gone
home with me on long walks, sat with me through numerous silent evenings, stood
with me in the middle of a group of laughing people, and lay across the bed with
me while I cried because I didn't know what else to do. It seems that even when
I escape it for a while, it is waiting not too far away. We have long talks,
loneliness and I, and I have to say that I have learned much more from our journeying
together. We have become friends. But the friendship was a long time in coming.

The One that Got Away

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with...and the one that got away.

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in away that goes beyond the little niceties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big, inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's not that you and the person you're with are no good; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flash point of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down with someone. He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life, but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll will make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person. Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is. The biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough to realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.

But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you do if it's not yet too late? Simple....find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away" means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Ask him/her out to coffee, ask her out to a movie, it doesn't matter if you've dropped in from out of nowhere. You'd be surprised, you just might be "the one that got away" as well as for the person who is your "the one that got away."

You might drop in from out of nowhere and it won't make a difference. If the timing is finally right, it'll all just fall into place somehow and you know, I'm thinking, it would be a great feeling, in the end, to be able to say to someone, "Hey you, you're the one that almost got away. "

Take care of our parents

A simple man tells how his booking an air ticket for his parents, their first flight, brought emotions and made him realize how much we all take everything for granted when it comes to our parents.

My parents left for our native place on March of 2007 and I accompanied them to the airport not just to see them off but to really go with them to their destination it being their first airplane trip, I had to make sure everything will be all fine for them. In spite of being asked to book tickets by ferry, I got them tickets on Cebu Pacific.

The moment I handed over the tickets to him, they were surprised to see that I had booked them by air. The Excitement was very apparent on their faces, waiting for the time of travel. just like school children, they were preparing themselves on that day and we all went to the airport, right from using the trolley for their luggage, the baggage check-in and asking for window seat and waiting restlessly for the security check-in to happen.

They were thoroughly enjoying themselves and I, too, was overcome with joy watching them experience all these things.

As we were about to go in the security check-in, my father walked up to me with tears welling in his eyes and thanked me. He became very emotional and it was not as if I had done something great but the fact that this meant a great deal to him and my mother actually, it was more of a birthday gift to her on the 23rd of March. When he said thanks, I told him there was no need to thank me.

But later thinking about the entire incident, I looked back at my life.

As a child, how many dreams have our parents made come true? without understanding the financial situation, we ask for basketball, dresses, toys, outings, etc. Irrespective of their affordability, they have satisfied to all our needs. Did we ever think about the sacrifices they had to make to accomodate many of our wishes? Did we ever say thanks for all that they have done for us?

Same way, today when it comes to our children or future children (for those who are still single), we always think that we should put them in a good school. Regardless of the amount of tuition, we will ensure that we will have to give the child the best, themw parks, toys, etc. But we tend to forget that our parents have sacrificed a lot for our sake to see us happy, so it is our responsibility to ensure that their dreams are realized and what they failed to see when they were young, it is our responsibility to ensure that they experience all those and their life is complete.

Many times, when my parents had asked me some questions, I have actually answered back without patience. When your child asks you something, haven't you been very polite in answering? Now, you must have realized how our parents would have felt at those moments.

Let us realize that old age is a second childhood and just as we take care of our children, the same attention and same care need to be given to our parents and elders.

Rather than my parents saying thank you to me, I would want to say sorry for making them wait so long for this small dream. I do realize how much they have sacrificed for my sake and i will do my best to give the best possible attention to all their wishes. Just because they are old does not mean that they will have to give up everything and keep sacrificing for their grandchildren also. they have wishes too.

Take care of your parents.

g r i e f

This smile, yet full of meaning, fake

This feeling, yet full of perceptions, aches

This mind, yet full of reasons, hollows

This heart, yet full of love, sorrows.....

Moving on letter.....

I loved you with all my heart, and love you still, but I'm tired - I'm tired of fighting for a love that lived its moment...of living on memories that are special only to me...

We started spending a lot of time together, talking, eating, and playing ...we would always choose to closely sit next to each other with my arm around your shoulders and your hand on my lap...we would hold hands and be very affectionate with each other...we even had private jokes that we didn't want to explain or share with anyone else...and every moment we spent together was fun even if we weren't doing anything at all. Friends say that there's this tenderness with which we look at each other, a twinkle in our eyes and a soft smile on our lips that held so much promise...

Thank you for everything...for taking away my insecurities; for showing me that people do love me for who I am; for making me understand that people I love will hurt me but it doesn't necessarily mean they love me any less, and that when they do hurt me, it is possible to forgive, forget and move on with life; for making me realize it is possible to trust again after getting hurt. Thank you too for giving me the most painful lesson in my life thus far...that the moment you love someone you have given them the capacity to hurt you, that how much you hurt is equal to how much you have loved, that getting hurt is proportionate to having too many expectations. Thank you for accepting me and allowing me enough room to grow at the same time...for inspiring me and making me want to become a better person. Thank you for being there when I needed you, - for the silly and the serious moments; for making me laugh, smile when ever I'm sad or confused; for never failing to make me feel better no matter how down or how depressed I've become; for unselfishly sharing my joys and my happiness. Most of all, thank you for making me feel special, for making me feel loved.

I'm sorry things had to come to this, But even if everything got so painful, I'm still glad to have known you, to have had you in my life even for just a short while.

I'm letting you go, I'm letting us go. I've finally accepted that this is the way things would have to be, that I should allow us both to be free enough to seek whatever it is that will truly make us happy.

I must admit you probably won't be too far away from my thoughts, and that thinking of you will still bring that tinge of sadness and regret. But I'm okay. I will be okay. Loving again may take awhile though. For now, I'd concentrate on healing myself, on making myself complete on my own - so that when the right one finally comes, I'll be able to give myself to her as I would have wanted to give myself to you.

Wherever life may lead us from here...good luck!

=== ? ===

Searching for love had been a mystery for me,

I’ve been told that if I want love,

I have to search for it.

Some said I have to wait.

But humans as we are,

We need someone, more than just a companion.

We need someone who could complete us.

Many have found it so easy,

And have lost it in just a snap.

Even you have to wait or to search.

Three things are important, once you have it…

Risk everything,

Anticipate pain and

Endure what ever it brings…

HOW TO CONTROL EMOTIONS

This would give you guides on how to control your emotions towards your better-half, friends, officemates and all the people around you, especially your "boss" . The rules of practicing "ugaling langit, ugaling kaaya-aya" :

#1 Ang naunang magalit ang may karapatang magalit. Pag naunahan ka na ng galit niya, tumahimik ka na lang muna.

#2 Walang taong nag-aaway mag-isa. Pag hindi kayo sumagot o pumatol, titigil din daw ang taong nakikipag- away sa inyo.

#3 Ang taong galit, 'bingi.' If someone is angry, wala raw pinakikinggan, so, don't try to explain and fight back. Hindi ka niya iintindihin dahil wala siyang naririnig kundi ang sarili nya.

#4 Ang taong galit, 'abnoy.' Ayon sa pastor, Biblical daw ito? because the Lord said when He was crucified, "Father, patawarin mo sila dahil hindi nila alam ang kanilang ginagawa." Modern term for these kinds of people are abnoys, so you better not get angry para huwag kang matawag na abnoy.

You should also know and realize that the persons who make your day bad are jewels, because you need them for you to mature. Hangga't andyan daw sila at kinaiinisan mo, ibig sabihin, immature ka pa. God will not take away those people; it's for you to take away your bad feelings towards them. You'll know na mature ka na pag dumating 'yung time na hindi ka na naiinis sa mga taong ito because you have learned to accept them and to have patience with them.

#5 Finally, the best part of this is to tell yourself na, because of this person, "I will grow mature," and that DAHIL SA CONTRIBUTION NIYA SA MATURITY MO, KUKUNIN DIN SYA NI LORD

E m o t i o n

Are complex evaluative (positive or negative) reactions of the nervous system in response to external or internal stimuli (e.g., fear, sadness, anger, happiness, surprise, ambivalence, and others).

A distinct feeling or quality of consciousness, such as joy or sadness, that reflects the personal significance of an emotion-arousing event. In modern times the subject of emotion has become part of the subject matter of several scientific disciplines—biology, psychology, psychiatry, anthropology, and sociology.

Emotions are central to the issues of human survival and adaptation. They motivate the development of moral behaviour, which lies at the very root of civilization. Emotions influence empathic and altruistic behaviour, and they play a role in the creative processes of the mind.

No aspect of our mental life is more important to the quality and meaning of our existence than emotions. They are what make life worth living, or sometimes ending.